Is Sex Expected On The Fourth Date?
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A reader asked me a question to the effect of whether guys expect sex on the fourth date. I thought this was very interesting because I hadn’t ever considered the concept before. Offhand, I would say “No. Sex is Not expected on the fourth date”.
Sex is expected immediately.
What He’s Thinking
The only reason he spoke to you in the first place was that he thought you were attractive. Read the rest of this entry »
Sex Addiction Therapy & Rehab?
First things First… There are Sex Addicts and there are guys that like to ****.
There are guys that like to **** several chicks consecutively or simultaneously.
There are guys that would **** all day if they could.
There are guys that would **** on a box, near a fox, or while eating Green Eggs & Ham and NOT *ONE* of these guys are ADDICTS. O_o
Somehow.. It’s become trendy that when dudes get busted doing what they like to do, they can now rely on this little automatic backup parachute that’s triggered after your main parachute fails you while you’re plummeting towards the Earth while skydiving, which is called SEX REHAB!!! :D
The Problem
Back in the day, chicks were just SOL when their man got busted cheating. \o/ If it was a politician, the chick did the Perp Walk with him to the podium and stood there like a small child that didn’t understand English while her husband admitted to The Entire World that even though he’s married to this chick next to him, he likes to “Get In where he Fit In”.
Meanwhile, dude’s pockets were SOL when she did the Eddie Murphy on him and shuffled off to Buffalo with HALF!!! :D haha That was the arrangement. Do what you can until you get busted and then you lose your main chick, probably your kids and definitely your money.
The Solution
At some point, some genius figured out that there was a way to keep the chick, kids & cash. They changed the response for “How come you did XYZ with that chick?” from “I felt like it” or “That’s what I do” or “She was there” to “I’m addicted to women?.. and I need… HELP?” Read the rest of this entry »
Unexpected Sex / Just The Way I Planned It
Reader “Gina” asked me a question, which I’ll paraphrase and then talk about:
Gina met a guy on the internet and eventually went on an IRL date with him where their conversation about past history and near-future life goals seemed to be in sync and they both enjoyed the date.
They went out on another couple of dates and progressed to making out. They also went dancing together. After their fourth date, she went to his crib and had what she called “unexpected sex”.
Let’s say she was less than perfectly prepared to give it up that night, hehe. She proceeded to have the normal female “buyer’s remorse” reaction to dropping her drawers faster than she thought she would. The general sex was protected, the oral wasn’t.
Also, the sex Gina received was GAH-BAGE! (as far as HER getting something out of it) Read the rest of this entry »
Euphemisms For Sex
There are lots of euphemisms people use instead of saying “having sex”. Some of them make sense and others don’t.
They’re normally used to either dress sex UP or dress it DOWN.. To make sex cooler than it really was or to play it off like the physical act didn’t happen at all by describing some peripheral event that may or may not have actually accompanied the sex… such as SLEEPING. :/
Here are 10 euphemisms for sex that come to mind, in no particular order:
Getting Laid makes sense, because for the most part, you’re going to be laying down while you’re doing it… unless you have her leg up on a counter or she’s on her hands and knees, doggie-style…
Sleeping Together makes NO SENSE, because most of the time that one or more of you are asleep, there’s no sex going on… MOST of the time! ;)
Getting Some makes sense, because you’re not specifying “Getting Some WHAT?”.
Having An Affair makes no sense at all, unless one of the parties involved is married. If both people are single, there’s no “affair” to be had. It’s just sex. Read the rest of this entry »
Street Game 05: Who Should Pay For The Date?
Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.
More Episodes: http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/streetgame/
Street Game 04: The Reason Why He’s Talking To You
Bill & Frank’s audio podcast derived from the DatingGenius dating advice blog.
More Episodes: http://billcammack.com/category/datinggenius/streetgame/
Top 10 Reasons to Date a Geek
Lindz & Bill present the top 10 reasons why you should actively seek out geeks for dating, relationships or marriage:
Geeks are always played down in the John Cusack / John Hughes movies, but you’ll notice they always end up with that monumental kiss at the end of the movie, indicating that a long-lasting and loving relationship ensued.
I’ll bet you wondered why they write movies that way… Well, wonder no more!!! Here’s why geeks > EVERYBODY as far as dating! :D
1. You can learn a lot about them by going to their website – usually www.theirname.com. They will have a site.
L: What’s a geek without a site? A fake geek. Google them and you can probably find everything you need to know about them – hell – their favorite food, color and even their blood type. Just be careful though, you can also bet that they have a secret tracking service to track your IP address, so you may want to do this from your local public library.
B: FRLZ! If you can’t go to LindseyChen.com or BillCammack.com and get all the information you need to determine whether you’d like to meet this person or not, they need to turn in their geek credentials.
Even Worse… If you can’t Google Lindsey Chen or Google Bill and find them within the top 10 entries for their name, they’re probably not authentic geeks at all! :/
2. They don’t have time to cheat on you because they’re working on their startup.
Stimulus & Response / “The Agenda”
This post is a response to reader “fishingrod”’s recent comments:
fishingrod: Hi Bill,
I guess it is easier to keep in mind why guys do what they do when this whole “wanting to get laid†thing is part of your own agenda.
Hey Fishingrod. :D
“Wanting to get laid” isn’t part of the agenda. Wanting to get laid is *THE* agenda.
Of course this isn’t true for all guys, and it’s not why ALL guys get into relationships.
My point in bringing this up over and over is that exactly what you’re saying is what keeps women from understanding what happened to them in a lot of situations. I don’t know *ANYBODY* that has ANY choice in the matter whatsoever who’s dating a chick that he doesn’t find physically attractive.
I don’t know ANYBODY that has deliberately kicked it to (introduced themselves to with the intent of beginning dating) a chick where he said “Damn… That chick is REALLY UNATTRACTIVE… I’ve GOT to meet her!”.
Granted, you have guys that don’t have any visual taste in women, so they end up dating chicks that *YOU* think are ugly, haha but that doesn’t mean that THEY aren’t attracted to her. Also, they might be attracted to her body and are letting her grill slide, because they like having sex with her. In that case, while they themselves would call their girlfriend “ugly”, they’re cool with that. Then you have the guys that got into a relationship and then their chick sat around with the remote control and the bon bons until she no longer looked the way she did when he was initially attracted to her. Now, these guys are looking for ways to avoid having sex with their ‘busted’ girlfriends.
Obviously, there are myriad permutations, however, it’s a high-percentage chance in the currently-active dating game that the basic, underlying reason that a guy is talking to a gal is because he’s physically attracted to her and wants to have some format of sex with her…. Actually, let me roll that back and just say generally that he finds something STIMULATING or AROUSING about her, which is his impetus for meeting her in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »
Money Talks… Don’t Overdo It.
If you’re into buying chicks but you don’t want to look like a trick, make sure you don’t overdo it as far as how fine the chick is compared to how YOU look.
Granted, we all want to bang the hottest chicks… It’s how guys are built. However, if your goal is to look like a playboy rather than a customer, make sure you hire chicks that people actually BELIEVE you could have possibly pulled on your own.
Nobody’s impressed with someone that happens to have an extra $4,000 that they’re willing to toss at a chick to do what regular chicks will do in the bar bathroom for free.
It’s like in the movie “Gladiator”. Russell Crowe is a MAN. He steps to the front lines and does what needs to be done. Joaquin Phoenix is a HERB, but he happens to be the ruler’s son, so he wants respect. His respect is entirely dependent upon people’s reverence towards his father. He has no individual props of his own. Russell is respected everywhere he goes, because his track record of honor and valor and being a straight-up WARRIOR rings bells everywhere he goes. Read the rest of this entry »
Morning-After Conduct
ok. So you went to the tech conference COUGHsxswCOUGH and you got your drink on and hooked up with that chick, right ;) …
Except the conference isn’t OVER YET, so you actually have to see her the next day ( hate it when THAT happens! :D ).
Here are your top 5 options on how to deal when you run into her today:
Act like you liked it when you didn’t
When your eyes meet, look at her like ” HEYYYYY! :D ” and smile. Extend your right hand so she extends hers, clasp it and use your left hand to pat her on the back. Pull her in close to you for a hug and whisper in her ear “That ish was the bomb last night, yo. Good Lookin’ Out.”
She will feel accomplished and your job is done. You’re now only responsible for winking at her a couple of times and some minor waves from across the room.
Act like you didn’t like it when you did
Calm down. Stop thinking about it. Hold your breath if you need to… Helps you focus on reality, right-now. Give her a nice hug. Remember to let her go. Small-talk with her, then say something like “You know… We got really DRUNK together last night…” or “I really don’t want last night to come between us and our friendship” or “I care about you too much blah blah blah we shouldn’t do that ever again”.
Try to sound sincere when you’re saying this. If you hear your voice trembling because you’re lying, drink some water. Also, if you feel like you’re starting to get aroused again as soon as you see her, skip the “hug” part. Read the rest of this entry »




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