Suppression of honest communication leaves you with a life of deceit.
Don’t chastise people for telling you the truth now and then cry about them lying to you later.
As a chick I’ve known for around a decade introduced me IRL to another chick I was meeting for the first time in life, in the process of attempting to explain who I am, the term “misogynistic” arrived in a sentence. Something to the effect of “I felt like sometimes what he says is misogynistic…”
Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including social exclusion, sex discrimination, hostility, androcentrism, patriarchy, male privilege, belittling of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification. Misogyny can occasionally be found within sacred texts of religions and mythologies, and various influential Western philosophers and thinkers have been described as misogynistic.
Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as an instrument of sexual pleasure. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. Objectification is most commonly examined at the level of a society, but can also refer to the behavior of individuals.
Now, First of all, I’m glad she said that. 🙂 Continue reading “Loser Society: Why The Truth Sounds Like Misogyny To You”
Decisions, Decisions… To tell people about themselves or not…
Sometimes, you can see other people’s personal roadblocks more easily and objectively than they can.
The question is what to *DO* with that information.
Do you tell the person about themselves and help them strive to improve their lives, or do you let them remain in their rut and keep your information & theories to yourself? Continue reading “Taking Responsibility For Other People’s Predictable Futures”
So, in a scenario where men get to select from a pool of women, telling the truth is actually a valid tactic..
So I’m talking with a homegirl of mine, and I’m explaining to her the various lies men tell women as a matter of principle, such as “I’m getting a divorce”, “It’s not working out between me and my girlfriend”, “I haven’t had sex with her in months”, blah blah blah, and I’m letter her know that guys know they have to say these kinds of things so women don’t feel like homewreckers for giving it up.
Her response was something to the effect of “They could just tell the truth”, which I immediately found hilarious, because of course that’s what a female would say, because they believe that males tell them the truth. Continue reading “Tell Women The Truth”
So, I read this update by this chick, right?.. Saying that some dude did her wrong, right? 😀
Of course, being a logical human being, I think that means she learned her lesson, so I put in my real, honest two cents about the situation and wake up to find out that she’s unfriended me or blocked me or whatever.
Not only that, but the comment I had left in her thread was deleted.
This is why nobody tells you the truth.
You can’t handle the truth. Continue reading “Why Nobody Tells You The Truth”
A homegirl of mine was just victimized by the most egregious case of online dating false advertising I’ve ever heard of! 😀 .. WOW!.. I mean, it was horrific. Some people ought to be absolutely ashamed and embarrassed about how they present themselves online vs. how they actually are in real life (IRL). Continue reading “Online Dating (False Advertising)”
Women are better liars than men. This is because, in general, women can immerse themselves in fantasies way better than men can.
If women want to start to feel turned on, what do they do?… That’s right… READ A BOOK!!! :O .. Some words.. In a little paperback novel with one picture of Fabio on the cover holding some chick that they project to be them. Suddenly!!!… A Puerto Rican gal sitting on her fire escape in Harlem, NYC is ACTUALLY a southern belle, dressed like the woman on the cover, riding in a Horse & Buggy with her Fabioesque lover whom she imagines is only having sex with her until 100 pages later where she reads that TMZ reported that her man has been ******* every maid and nanny that they’ve ever hired since their relationship began. Continue reading “Why Women Are Better Liars Than Men”
A friend told me a few weeks ago that she felt my blog posts were cynical. I wasn’t sure I agreed with her, so I looked up the actual definition, and I think she was exactly spot-on with her assessment.
I had taken cynical to mean “negative”, when, in fact, it actually means “aware of the possibilities and potential in a situation”. I’m definitely aware of these and I definitely apply my past experiences and the experiences that have been relayed to me by people whose word and judgement I trust to every situation I become involved in or aware of.
1: captious, peevish
2: having or showing the attitude or temper of a cynic: as a: contemptuously distrustful of human nature and motives b: based on or reflecting a belief that human conduct is motivated primarily by self-interest.
I think the opposite of this would be to retardedly ignore what you learned from past experiences and go forward into your next relationship as if none of your prior experiences ever happened to you. Perhaps they were all flukes, and this time’s going to be that fairytale relationship that you were brainwashed to believe you were ever going to be a part of. Continue reading “Cynic’s Guide to Dating”
Ladies. Please wake up. There is no such thing as a guy having sex by mistake. Period. No chance, no way, no how. None.
I was having this conversation about “the truth” with a friend the other day, and the scenario came up of a guy being in a relationship with one chick and then having sex with a different chick and returning to his so-called “girlfriend” and telling her “the truth”.
Unfortunately, 🙂 My friend’s version of a guy telling “the truth” included “blah blah blah blah and I made a mistake and blah blah blah”. Sorry. That doesn’t exist.
What had happened was….. He did what he wanted to do AT. THAT. TIME., and now he feels sorry about it.
Maybe he feels sorry because he went back on his word, which has nothing to do with his girl and everything to do with who he thinks he is as a person and what he believes (believED) his overall character is (was).
Maybe he feels sorry because he didn’t think he was the type of guy to cheat, and he found out “the hard way” that he was (is).
Maybe he feels sorry that he can’t look his girl in the eye and continue the lie that he’s only having sex with her. Continue reading “Sex By Mistake?”