How You Feel Doesn’t Matter

Let’s say I tell you the grass is green, and you don’t like the fact that the grass is green… Your NOT LIKING the fact that the grass is green doesn’t change the color of the grass.

Here’s the deal. There are two things going on right now.. There’s:

a) What’s happening, and

b) How you feel about what’s happening.

If you’re not able to separate the two, you’re screwed, because your perception doesn’t necessarily match up with anyone else’s reality. Continue reading “How You Feel Doesn’t Matter”

You’re Still Not Me

Back in the day, when I used to play the relationship game, I had a few girlfriends..


I didn’t think anything of it at the time. It’s easy to have multiple girlfriends by not giving them what they want.

Oh, Life..
Is bigger..
It’s bigger than you.
And you are not me.
~ R.E.M.

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Back in the day, when I used to play the relationship game, I had a few girlfriends..


I didn’t think anything of it at the time. It’s easy to have multiple girlfriends by not giving them what they want.

Females have this strange ability to really, really, REALLY want to physically hook up with you, but to find mentally-based excuses to withhold things from you that you never asked them for.. like fidelity. Continue reading “You’re Still Not Me”

Social Media: You’re Doing It Wrong

Let me tell you how Social Media works…

There are two layers. There’s the online layer and then the offline layer.

The online layer is where we all say whatever we want about ourselves and expect people to take our word for it. The offline layer is where you have to PUT UP OR SHUT UP. You’re either the same person IRL (In Real Life) that you claim to be online or you’re not. Continue reading “Social Media: You’re Doing It Wrong”

Does He Trust You? [RW:DC, Part 03]

It’s rare that I hear anything of actual interest on “Reality Television” shows, but on this week’s “Real World: DC”, Andrew said in the confessional that he doesn’t trust women… Across the board… Like, women IN GENERAL, he doesn’t trust.

They threw in a sound bite about him being aware that his mother cheated on his father. That was probably the deepest revelation in the show about him because he’s made a career out of NOT giving up any personal information about himself. In fact, the reason this came up was that the girl he’s now calling “girlfriend” told him that she feels like he’s holding back, which has been his Modus Operandi the entire show.

I also found it interesting that he invoked “Bros Before Hoes” not once, but TWICE in episode 2311, as well as mentioning his “Wingman Responsibilities”Continue reading “Does He Trust You? [RW:DC, Part 03]”

You Remind Me Of My Ex

My favorite pickup line is “You remind me of my ex”. 😀 I really like that line because it’s ambitious. It’ll either work for your or against you and there’s no telling what it’s going to do until you toss it out on the table.

It’s also a multi-purpose line. It’s mostly effective as a countermeasure. If you happen to get caught staring at some chick you’ve never seen before, “Oh, Sorry… It’s just that you remind me of my ex” will get you out of it every time. It’s better to cop a plea to feeling sentimental about a lost love(r) than it is to let her think you were just plain SWEATING HER because she’s hawt. 😀

You Remind Me...As far as a proactive maneuver, you need to pull it out at the right time. You want to use it to CHANGE the game, not as a regular part of your repertoire. It’s a flea-flicker (an American football play that’s not likely to work, but sometimes produces surprising and effective results. Usually used as an act of desperation in an attempt to snatch victory from the jaws of defeat).

If she’s already feeling you, leave it alone. If you feel she’s “meh” about you, you can use the line to kick-start your rap or demolish it altogether, depending on how she reacts. If she’s definitely “anti” you, you can use it to try to shock her into some kind of interest/action.

It’s risky because women hate to be compared to other women. If you’ve ever seen two gals show up to an event in the same outfit, you know what I mean. It’s actually pretty funny. You never see guys going “Damn… That dude has on the same Hawaiian shirt I do! :(” It’s something interesting or guys can give each other props for it. Anyway… This is why YRMOME is a risky proposition. Women like to feel unique, which is why you want to make sure you word it “You REMIND ME” and not “You LOOK JUST LIKE my ex” hahaha

However, taken in a positive way, she’ll be glad that you see her as the type of gal you’d date or at least have sex with, assuming she was sitting there thinking about hooking up with you in the first place. 😉

So what’s your favorite line?

~Bill | @BillCammack